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January 2017

Abuse, Narcissism

Jekyll and Hyde: The final chapter

I have always wanted to go to a masquerade. To don an exquisitely made mask with a plume of feathers off to one side and dress in an equally exquisite ball gown. That just sounds so fun to me. But I wonder how much your identity is really obscured just because your face is partially covered, especially to those who are familiar with you. Some masks are probably more effective than others at concealing the identity of its wearer. The same is so in life.

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Abuse, Narcissism

Jekyll and Hyde: Good guy vs. Bad guy

In my last post I introduced the abusive person as maintaining a good guy/bad guy persona commonly compared to Jekyll/Hyde. Due to the length of the post I had to stop before elaborating on the complication of referring to Dr. Jekyll as the  “good apple” and ended with this question: Is Dr. Jekyll really the good guy?

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Jekyll and Hyde: An introduction

I mentioned in my post, The insidious face of abuse…, a label that felt like a perfect match to my situation. I had not previously heard it used outside of the original story and was surprised to find that it was already commonly applied to cases of abuse.

Jekyll and Hyde…

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Abuse, Narcissism

The Insidious Face of Abuse: An Insider’s Story

*this article was written in June, 2016 therefore the events mentioned in this article may not match what has already happened.


This is a particularly difficult article for me to write. There is a line from Alice in Wonderland that perhaps best explains this for me.

“ If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn’t. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn’t be. And what it wouldn’t be, it would. You see?”


You see?

Of course not.  It is nonsensical. And that is why this is so difficult to write.

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