I posted this article in an early blog post, but came across this paragraph again. This is a great explanation of boundaries. Click below for the whole article.
Set the boundaries with grace and love and leave it to the toxic person to decide which side of that boundary they want to stand on. Boundaries aren’t about spite or manipulation and they don’t have to be about ending the relationship. They are something drawn in strength and courage to let people see with great clarity where the doorway is to you. If the relationship ends, it’s not because of your lack of love or loyalty, but because the toxic person chose not to treat you in the way you deserve. Their choice.
When Someone You Love is Toxic – How to Let Go, Without Guilt
I’ve been gone for a while. I am sorry.
“….But there’s also no safety in continuing to open your heart to someone who’s careless with it. So what then? This is the realm of management, not change. Self-protection should become your primary goal. Limit contact if you can, just like you would with any toxic relationship.”
A friend recently shared this article with me and two other friends have also posted it on Facebook. It is a very articulate and well-defended view of divorce in a marriage where the covenant is broken by one partner. While I do not wish the end of a marriage for anyone and would never advocate for it unless absolutely necessary for your physical, emotional and/or mental safety, if you do find yourself in a place where you need to consider officially and legally breaking the bond of marriage, this is an important read. If you think that divorce should never be contemplated and is not a part of God’s plan, you should read this. If you are already divorced and feel the weightiness of that broken bond, you should read this. It is titled “A High View of Marriage Includes Divorce.”
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A High View of Marriage Includes Divorce
Forgiveness without accountability is irresponsible.
So what then of the phrase forgive and forget? Is it compatible with accountability? Is it even right?
Yesterday I came across a situation that both broke my heart and made things raw all over again.
I find some topics harder to write about than others. My story seems to be one of those…
Not only am I a self-professed food snob and logophile, I am a cynic.
Life has a way of showing us things about ourselves.