I posted this article in an early blog post, but came across this paragraph again. This is a great explanation of boundaries. Click below for the whole article.
Set the boundaries with grace and love and leave it to the toxic person to decide which side of that boundary they want to stand on. Boundaries aren’t about spite or manipulation and they don’t have to be about ending the relationship. They are something drawn in strength and courage to let people see with great clarity where the doorway is to you. If the relationship ends, it’s not because of your lack of love or loyalty, but because the toxic person chose not to treat you in the way you deserve. Their choice.
When Someone You Love is Toxic – How to Let Go, Without Guilt
At the end of my post about gaslighting, I mentioned we were going to talk about how to fight this pernicious tactic and we will, but I have good news and bad news….
I mentioned in my post, The insidious face of abuse…, a label that felt like a perfect match to my situation. I had not previously heard it used outside of the original story and was surprised to find that it was already commonly applied to cases of abuse.
Jekyll and Hyde…
Does this sound like a ridiculous question to you?
Depending on the reason you came to this page, perhaps not.
If you suspect that you may be abused, then you are further along than I was when I first started this process. Please keep reading.