Is there ever a time you should not believe the victim?
Have you ever received an apology for which you felt pretty certain the wrongdoer was not really sorry?
When the word abuse is used, people’s minds often go straight to physical abuse and with good reason. Physical abuse is horrible. Physical abuse is 100% preventable and 100% wrong. It is a mistake to stop there, however. For sure, physical abuse can result in permanent physical and psychological damage or even death, but there are other types of abuse where the damage doesn’t really show on the outside but lasts much long longer than bruises or even broken bones.
I came across this blog post years ago. It has clung to my mind ever since I read it. It is probably one of the most poignant and meaningful posts I have ever read. I never seem to remember its location, but I can always find it by typing in the search “little girl. funeral. I hate ants.”
Please Don’t Give me a Christian Answer
At the end of my post about gaslighting, I mentioned we were going to talk about how to fight this pernicious tactic and we will, but I have good news and bad news….
This is a post I have intended to write for a long time but seemed at a loss every time I sat down to do it.
All of my posts up to this point have been to give information. This time, I am interested in feedback.
I find this picture comical in light of the subject matter of this post. (Actually, it is comical without the post)
Sorry Hoover, you’ve never made me happy (especially as a birthday present).
There is a definite predictable cycle that occurs in abuse situations. Like dancing, the participants two-step their way through this cycle until it becomes a well rehearsed pattern on perpetual repeat.