I want to give credit where credit is due. I did not come up with this graphic on different types of abuse and certainly, this is not all-inclusive, but this is one women’s example of abusive type behaviors that she experienced. (The original post can be found here: Elisabethklein.com). I tend to be a bit hesitant on using personal examples in my own blog for several reasons:
I posted this article in an early blog post, but came across this paragraph again. This is a great explanation of boundaries. Click below for the whole article.
Set the boundaries with grace and love and leave it to the toxic person to decide which side of that boundary they want to stand on. Boundaries aren’t about spite or manipulation and they don’t have to be about ending the relationship. They are something drawn in strength and courage to let people see with great clarity where the doorway is to you. If the relationship ends, it’s not because of your lack of love or loyalty, but because the toxic person chose not to treat you in the way you deserve. Their choice.
A friend recently shared this article with me and two other friends have also posted it on Facebook. It is a very articulate and well-defended view of divorce in a marriage where the covenant is broken by one partner. While I do not wish the end of a marriage for anyone and would never advocate for it unless absolutely necessary for your physical, emotional and/or mental safety, if you do find yourself in a place where you need to consider officially and legally breaking the bond of marriage, this is an important read. If you think that divorce should never be contemplated and is not a part of God’s plan, you should read this. If you are already divorced and feel the weightiness of that broken bond, you should read this. It is titled “A High View of Marriage Includes Divorce.”
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